Guys, I want you to know something:
You need to respect yourself.
Hypothetically, if I sat and openly paid really cute guys to give me
flowers, tell me all sorts of nice things about myself, and other such stuff
they do in sappy movies and fairy tales... If I acted like I thought I really was this adored princess-y creature because of all this attention from guys I was blatantly dropping tips to the whole time, would you infer from that behavior that I respected myself?
If I bragged to all my girlfriend's about it openly, in public places, in
order to show them how truly girly I really was, 'cuz, “Look, my traditional
feminine needs are just oh-so-HUGE! What a big awesome woman I am! I have money and I can get a bunch of gold-digging hotties to give me attention with it! Aren't I just the Queen of the Hill” Would you respect me then, or think I had any for myself?
Do you realize what it looks like when you sit and pay girls
to dance for you? And if you brag about it in restaurants and gas stations and parties?
You want somebody to jump on your lap when you come home, somebody to offer you beauty and vulnerability, and to think that you're worthy of those things. That's ok, but, by sitting and openly paying women to pretend to find you worthy, you are doing a masculine version of what I just described above. Calling 1-900 for explicit phone conversations is doing the same thing. That person on the phone doesn't care about you, doesn't really think that you are sexy and all-that-and-a-bag-of-chips, That person is merely as desperate for employment as the callers are for attention.... They're being paid to be dishonest with callers, pretending to like them and to respond well to them, and the caller blatantly pays to be lied to in order to facilitate lying to himself.
You want somebody to jump on your lap when you come home, somebody to offer you beauty and vulnerability, and to think that you're worthy of those things. That's ok, but, by sitting and openly paying women to pretend to find you worthy, you are doing a masculine version of what I just described above. Calling 1-900 for explicit phone conversations is doing the same thing. That person on the phone doesn't care about you, doesn't really think that you are sexy and all-that-and-a-bag-of-chips, That person is merely as desperate for employment as the callers are for attention.... They're being paid to be dishonest with callers, pretending to like them and to respond well to them, and the caller blatantly pays to be lied to in order to facilitate lying to himself.
If you really, honestly have respect for yourself, you will never do
that kind of stuff. Ever. Period.
If you treat yourself with respect, you will attract people
who respect themselves and who respect you, but if you don't then you probably
won't.
You will feel better about yourself, over time, if you just treat yourself with genuine respect no matter how you might feel (I've tried this, it really works!). Choose to respect yourself too much to reduce yourself to blatant self-deception. Deep down, you always know that stuff's not real, right? Stay real, and don't accept less than honest truth, and honest respect from others.
You will feel better about yourself, over time, if you just treat yourself with genuine respect no matter how you might feel (I've tried this, it really works!). Choose to respect yourself too much to reduce yourself to blatant self-deception. Deep down, you always know that stuff's not real, right? Stay real, and don't accept less than honest truth, and honest respect from others.
Respect yourself enough to stay real. Please.
Ok, that's all. Take care. <3
